I promised an update on Tuesday, and I did not deliver. Sorry! In fact, Tuesday ended up being a completely uneventful day. We stayed home, we did school, we went to small group Bible study. But I’ve gotten ahead of myself.
Last Monday morning, I woke up to an email from our agency, simply stating: It looks like we may be okay for Trevor to travel without you (?!) Below that was a forwarded chain of correspondence between our agency and the US Consulate in Guangzhou. While parts of it were unclear, it does seem that there is an exception for Trevor’s type of residency visa, and we have it in writing now that he can complete the adoption without me. This was an answer to prayer, a gift from God beyond what I had even hoped for (though Trevor was praying for exactly this)!
And now, I want to tell you a story about a little boy with no name.
We found out about our newest little man from my dear friend Kelly, whose son came from the same orphanage. She came home with her boys two years ago desperate to find a family for little “DiDi”, back when we were just at the start of our process to adopt Lewis. Adopting a second little boy with Down syndrome wasn’t even on our radar yet.
We found other adoptive moms and agency advocates who knew him, always by the name of DiDi, the word in his language for “little brother”.
One mom shared with me that her husband had asked an orphanage worker what his name was, and she had answered, “He doesn’t have one. He has Downs.”
Let that sink in for a minute. The people looking after our boy did not even think he was worthy of having a name. Words cannot express how this broke my heart.
When we received his file, we discovered that his name is, indeed, just Di – also the character for little brother. It seems that when his file was prepared, they just wrote down the name he had always gone by.
Well, we aim to give this boy a name.
We are calling him…
Thaddeus Merit Young
We will call him Teddy for short, to echo DiDi, the name he has so long been called.
His “Di” is still in there (he WILL be a little brother, after all!) but his new name, Thaddeus, means “gift of God”, and that is exactly what he is.
His middle name was my grandfather’s. An English word denoting worth or value.
This boy, once deemed unworthy even of a name, is a gift from God. He has immeasurable worth. He is worthy not only of a name, but of a family, of a home, of love, and we cannot wait give him all of those things.