Happy Monday! Today, I’m considering how I love my life and find joy in mothering by knowing my worth.
A couple weeks ago on Thursday we were all set to have a lovely day. The sun was shining; we had a day out planned. It was just a matter of getting a little bit of school done and passing the time until the fun would begin.
Then I checked my Facebook (serves me right for signing in before naptime). It shouldn’t have been a big deal, but it was. Some guy I hardly knew in high school had left me a truly horrible comment, probably quite inadvertently, that cut right to the heart of everything that I am and believe as a wife and mother. I sat here blinking at my screen hoping that I was misreading it, or misunderstanding it, but no. I deleted the comment and sent him a private message asking him why he wrote what he wrote. Moments later, he wrote back and said it was a joke and that I shouldn’t take myself so seriously.
Big deal, right? Some guy I haven’t spoken to in fifteen years thinks my life is a joke. Why on earth should that bother me? Well, the short answer is: it shouldn’t!
But the world is full of messages to us stay-at-home moms. Some are subtle, some are not so subtle, but they are always there, whispering or shouting. They say things like, “Why would you want to waste your degree to be home with kids?” “Will you go back to work and do something useful with your life once they’re in school?” “Shouldn’t you be contributing something to the world rather than draining its resources by having all these babies?!”
All of that can start to persuade us, little by little, that we really aren’t worth very much, that what we’re doing is really not all that important in the long run. After all, what does our typical day look like? Cleaning up spills, changing diapers, making PB & J, settling arguments… how can all of that have any lasting value? It is never-ending work that just seems to add up to nothing.
As a mother, you hold more influence in your children’s lives than probably any other person they will ever know. You are with them each day from their waking moments until their heavy little eyes can’t stay open another minute, teaching them what life is about, showing them how it ought best to be lived. You, with God’s help, have the power to help mold and shape them into the people they will one day be. People who can contribute to the world, for good or for evil, by hard work, invention, teaching, loving, communicating or even by someday raising children of their own.
Moms, you have a big job. Maybe the most important one there is. And on days when the world makes you feel like a barefoot-and-pregnant cliche, remember that this is what the God who created the universe has this to say about a wife of noble character (from Proverbs 31, click the link to read the whole thing, you won’t regret it):
10 b She is worth far more than rubies. 11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. 12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: 29 “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” 30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. 31 Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
While in our daily lives, we can’t take ourselves too seriously for, say, singing all-four verses of Little Bunny Foo Foo (with full blown silly voices) or for wearing a homemade necklace lovingly made out of pasta, we must also remember that when it comes to our purpose and calling as mothers, we couldn’t possibly take our task too seriously.